Not trying to give relationship advice, but have you considered that your 1st criterias should be “has hobbys/interests and their shit somewhat together”? with the full-time job criteria, you could ironically filter out a perfect fit and end up with the same kind of person again, without realizing it.

no worries ❤️ it was a weird way to say it, ive actually never met anyone who says they “refuse” it. but honestly the ones who want to, can be frustrating and even depressing i mean sure, its never a disadvantage to speak english, but imagine this kind of convo dozens of times [context: i live in vietnam]

why you want to learn it? - i want to work in [european county where english is not an official language and labour/immigration laws only allow high skilled workers for specific positions which cannot be filled with ppl from shengen countries]

what do you wanna work there? - customer service

then should i be the asshole who destroys their dreams or the asshole who plays along and feeds their delusions? so if someone is just not interested or is maybe learning korean/japanese/chinese (which probably will be way more useful for them regarding career stuff) its simply a plus for me.

i mean i would not refuse anyone who speaks or wants to learn english. i have friends to help them with that (as best as i can, meaning helping practicing, not teaching). but idk, where i live there seems to be a certain type of person who wants to learn it, and they often tend to have some unreasonable expectations regarding how it will improve their lives. no judgment or anything, but i also try to learn a fucking language here (which turns out to be WAY more difficult than one might expect) and the more i hangout with english speakers the less i learn, because we just fall back to english. so over the years some kind of appreciation for people who simply have no interest in english seems to have emerged.

for someone with such an interest in communicating and reading, youre pretty good with reading into stuff 😅

not really a trait, but the lack of interest or refusal to learn english is a huge plus.

very reasonable, but i think one should keep in mind that sometimes seeing things by mere accident can mess a child up. not going into details, but when i was a kid i wanted to torrent flash (the program to do animation stuff). well, it wasnt flash what i downloaded, it was a collection of photos. photos which haunt me to this day.

i dont have children, but the “patental control” feature of nextdns improved my own mental health a LOT. probably would not use it on my kids tho, they wouldnt even know something like the internet exists lol.

CW: depression and worse

oh god yes, extremely lonely and unable to make any new connections.

for the most part of my life, i was one of those cannot be alone people. an afternoon or evening spent alone was painful, a full day almost unbearable. the very worst was being single, really bad, came with depression and whatnot. so i avoided being single and/or alone for +90% of the time between the teenage years and the beginnings of my 30ies.

then, after the end of a relationship (together literally 24/7 for years), i realized that i cannot be alone and should work on that. i did that and it was good. but i got so good at it, that it now feels strange. and it did not mix well with my tendency towards depression.

i can be with myself, but its not that im doing cool shit (anymore). im lonely and depressed to the point where… lets say it was justified that my friend contacted ppl cuz she thought im about do something bad. also i cultivated a diazepam/modafinil addiction, which i now need in combo for breakfast to have a normal day.

but yes, i have one friend in the place where i live, and she is not a bad or toxic person, actually quite sweet and kind, but i completely cut her (and by that also her boyfriend who i really like) out of my life, blocked every way of her contacting me and ignored her repeated hammering on my door. I dont even remember why, probably she said something too much for my hypersensitivity. those months were lonely (as they all are) but not particularly worse than any other time. few months ago she came over when my door was open and i was in a good mood, so we just hugged and are friends again now, which is really nice.

but its strange to think that, within 1 second, i was ready and then committed to end a many years lasting friendship over something that I dont even remember now. who does that when they already feel extremely lonely and literary have no one else?

also, in the past years i rejected every single person who took any romantic interest in me. who does that when they really fucking crave this kind of company for years? also there are dating apps, why am i suddenly unable to use those?

i wonder a lot if my life can be called a life and if i can be called a person in the real sense of those words. i feel pretty good/optimistic these days, but at some point something just went wrong i guess, and i probably need more than a few good days.

may i ask what you realized recently, and how?

if i open a site that ive opened x times this week/month a popup appears that says “no” then the pc shuts down and cannot be turned on for 3 hours.

https://bearblog.dev/ is nice. happy writing!

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for email there is an easy solution. create a shared alias on addy, confirm it as your recovery email, forget the alias 👌

but even 14 years seems long for a pharase that is said and written millions of times per day. and if those crackers can make billions of guesses per second how can they not guess both variants within minutes?

related question. how to make a good password bettter? adding a few extra special symbols like “µ£₹” or one long word like “freshwatercrocodiletesticles”?

i also dont really get it. the bitwarden pw tester says it will take 14 years to crack “its.a.beautiful.day”, write beautiful with 2 t`s and it will take “centuries”? 🧐

but yes i still use them. but always with numbers and random characters in between and words from multiple languages or fantasy words.

i did that test and got a ~$40 book for free 😆

yup. what agenda ya want to push kind stranger? depending on the agedalevel I charge two to five rubels per shilling. I also offer the exclusive pushpackagesubscriptionbox, 200 shillings per hour with a 5‰ discount!

goddammit that is so stupid it might actually work! I don’t have a problem with quitting, did it dozens of times, but sooner or later always had the famous “only one cig”.

gonna go for a cigar when that happens next time 👌

nah, domination of corporations is when millions of people owning their own small businesses.

which ones? can you maybe give me the name?

when will the mods be able to enforce rule 3?

Not regarding using or support for Lemmy