• Cryophilia@lemmy.world
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    2 months ago

    Patriarchy didn’t teach men that they’re disgusting, wtf

    That’s like the opposite of the patriarchy

    This is the shit feminists do that piss me off. Literally anything bad? Patriarchy. Literally anything good? Feminism. Even if it makes no goddamn sense.

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      Patriarchy absolutely teaches us that. It’s part of enforcing heteronormativity in men - if you find another man attractive or beautiful, you cannot express that without being accused of being gay, and this seeps into our self conception where not only do we have trouble viewing ourselves as capable of being beautiful, but we aggressively police men and boys around us who we perceive to be seeking beauty themselves.

      There’s been movement on this in the younger generation, but it’s still the hegemonic attitude.

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        Bullshit. That’s one tiny aspect of it - men unable to support other men. The vast majority of the problem of men seeing themselves as disgusting is feminsm. “All men are potential rapists” is a disgusting and extremely prevalent ideology. All men are trash, all men are pigs, you see women say these things all the time and it’s just accepted.

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          “All men are potential rapists” is a disgusting and extremely prevalent ideology

          This is not a prevalent ideology. I’m sure some edgy teens on tumblr have expressed this opinion, but what you think is feminism is actually a phantom you have constructed in your mind.

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            I’m sure that even if I found literally a thousand examples you’d continue to claim “well that’s not REAL feminism”.

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              2 months ago

              And I’m sure that if you actually engaged with feminism in good faith instead of blindly dismissing it off of out of context clips from “feminist OWNED” compilations, you would revise your opinion on it.

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                Cute, you’ve got this idea in your head of who I am. Could I possibly be a reasonable person with a valid point? No. I must be an Andrew Tate - huffing knuckle-dragging woman-beating mongoloid. That’s the only type of person who could ever possibly have an issue with feminism.

                • ✺roguetrick✺@lemmy.world
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                  The hilarity of you taking issue with others ascribing positions to you based on a cursory interaction when that’s all you’ve done in this entire thread for both posters and feminism as a whole is quite rich.

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                  2 months ago

                  you’ve got this idea in your head of who I am

                  It’s not in my head, it’s on the silicon. The evidence of you not knowing what you’re talking about and getting really mad about it is plain for everyone to see.

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      I consider the patriarchy to be the social power structure that enforces gender norms. What exactly do you consider the patriarchy to be?

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        Is there literally anything I could do to convince you to re evaluate your position? Because I bet no, and I really don’t have the time or energy to beat my head against a wall right now.

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          ? It’s a definition. It’s almost the exact definition on Wikipedia.

          “Patriarchal ideology acts to explain and justify patriarchy by attributing gender inequality to inherent natural differences between men and women, divine commandment, or other fixed structures.”

          Ya know, like male gender norms being enforced through a structural functionalist approach and the discrediting of supposedly feminine traits v such as beauty.

          If you’re operating under a fundamental different definition of patriarchy than what everyone else means when you’re talking about it, obviously there won’t be agreements.