I have imposter syndrome, both at work and in my relationship.

  • dingus@lemmy.world
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    5 months ago

    Odd. That’s backwards from what I generally hear people talk about. When you’re still in your early twenties, it’s very easy to meet people in college/university. Once you start getting older and leaving behind schooling and its associated extracurriculars, it gets way more difficult to meet people. Where are these 35+ people going out and finding partners? Not saying it’s impossible by any stretch of the imagination, just a lot harder.

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      5 months ago

      bingo.

      the whole ‘you’ll do better when you’re older’ is a myth told to silence people who are unhappy in their 20s. Things don’t get better, they stay the same or get worse. People don’t magically mature at the age of 35 or anything… typically they just double down on bad attitudes.

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      5 months ago

      people generally tell comforting myths and lies to themselves and collectively because the harsh reality of the situation is too terrifying to accept.

      people also generally believe that ‘one day i’ll be rich’. even though they are 45 and working at a cashier in a gas station.

      it’s also easier to tell yourself comforting BS because then you don’t have to take action and realize you are mostly a product of the choices you have made.

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      5 months ago

      I agree it’s easier when you are older. Not in late 20s early 30s but there is a lot of movement when people break up because they chose badly when young. So after 35, it opens up again.