It’s not bad, just a little unnecessary. When communicating verbally it’s understandable, similar to using “errm”, giving the person time to think of the next thing to say or as a way to interject into a conversation but with text you don’t need that.
Haha, one for me is “DM” (direct message), I grew up around forums so for me it’s “PM”.
I may have a look at the code for some of the Lemmy clients to see if I can add a filter in for these types of comments to either hide the comment or automatically block the user (extreme)
A few that irk me (I think it’s the grammar Nazi inside me):
Starting comments with “I mean” or “ngl” - it’s completely unnecessary fluff
Mass typos - a typo/bad autocorrect here and there is expected, but when the title/comment is full of them I have to try real hard to understand what they’re trying to say… spend a few seconds to proof read what you’ve typed!
The same regurgitated wit (if you can call it that) - you can almost predict the top comments before going into a thread
Being unable to have a serious discussion on serious topics - going into a news/science/political thread is painful; they’re plagued with bitter, short tempered aggressive comments, and repeated misinformation they’ve heard from other Reddit armchair generals. Just do a little bit of research before stating a fact you’ve read from a stranger.
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