Yes, you have things to offer. So far, you are correct in that they don’t seem to be things I need, as you have only expressed things I have already learned, and either accepted, or discarded. Yet, you continue to try to give them to me. I hope you have a good rest of your day!

Again, I never said marginalized people can’t be racist. If you think I did, I would suggest again to look internally.

Thank you for the unsolicited advice, I always appreciate people that try to help. I would also point out, that sometimes people’s need to express a point that is important to them, clouds the message that they are trying to express. I don’t see myself as one that needs guidance from others, I have the universe and my self, and the writings of those that came before me to do that.

But, I still love you, because I see myself when I was younger in you. I did the same thing

Yes, and I was letting them see that they were doing largely the same thing themselves, by not knowing who they were speaking with or where they are coming from.

lol…i didn’t say i couldn’t be racist, i said people that do work can break free. i agree that it can be internalized, as I know all of the traumas laid into us by society, our families, our countries, our socioeconomic standing, etc.

I am a practicing buddhist and long time meditator. I know the difference between the thoughts that arise from my programming and my true self. I am not my body, I am not my mind.

lol and I would suggest you learn about projection my friend. We see what we don’t like about ourselves most in other people. I see more love and hope than I see hate and evil because I work to cultivate both daily.

One thing to keep in mind is that some of us also grew up poor and with extreme neglect and trauma. I actually feel closer to people of color, and immigrants, than I do with my own white Americans. Marginalized people stick together.

lol those of us that have done the work can break free. Looks like maybe you still have a ways to go too

I know how you feel as I experienced some similarities with up bringing. Do you know of the disorganized attachment type or mother wounds? Emotional neglect during your first few years of life, even if basic needs are being met, can lead to what you describe. I’ve made progress myself, as has my wife, but it is difficult.

Those of us that have had to listen to their bullshit at holidays and other family gatherings for 50 years have been kindly letting them know.