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  • Sirence@feddit.detoCasual Conversation @lemm.ee•Mysterious meat allergy passed by ticks may affect hundreds of thousands in US, CDC estimatesEnglish
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    2 months ago

    My husband had it.

    We never bought meat to use at home anyways, so in that aspect nothing really changed.

    However it was kinda cumbersome when invited by other people, especially since we live in a backwards place where people consume meat daily. E.g. grandmas kept cooking red meat despite me trying to explain it multiple times and getting offended when he didn’t eat it.
    Oftentimes my husband would just eat a bit of it anyways and then spend the evening in the toilet throwing up, just to avoid the strange drama that telling people you can’t eat meat causes.

    That’s also how we figured out it goes away, since the doctor made it sound like it would be permanent. But eating the bit started to get less bad and then eventually stopped causing any issues. Now he can eat anything people serve again, which is saving us a lot of headache and drama.

  • Sirence@feddit.detoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•Is it wrong for a guy to want equal contribution in a relationship where both people work?
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    10 months ago

    Let’s say both the guy and girl make the same amount of money and are both good at and enjoy cooking and cleaning.

    Would it be wrong for a guy to want the girl to give equal contribution financially to the relationship if he’s also willing and capable of contributing equally to domestic duties?

    If both people worked exactly the same amount of time, with the same commute etc. and also did exactly the same amount of the same chores, that would be the definition of fair. But that is highly unlikely, and very often what one person perceives as doing half of the chores actually isn’t but they do not notice because their partner is picking up the slack. Real life is about finding the balance that works for both people involved. A true half half is not possible.

    In this same scenario, would it be wrong for him to expect her to cook and clean if he’s expected to handle the financial aspects of the relationship?

    If he works eg 8-9 hours it would be fair if she also works 8-9 hours in the household. But again, in real life household work, especially if you have younger kids, doesn’t end at 5 o’clock. Coming home at 5oclock after 8 hours of work but expecting your partner to work about 10+ hours or even more if you have kids until the late hours of the evening is not fair in the slightest.