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  • I am very sorry to read about your troubles. I have similar struggles, but not because of race. Rather, it’s because of disabilities that are invisible to others but have profoundly affected my ability to support myself and my wife. People are pretty terrible a lot of the time, and those people tend to stand out more as they like to make themselves loud in their terribleness. Good people really are everywhere, but I think they tend to be less visible and quieter.

    I was unemployed for 2.5+ years due to health issues, so I also spent a full year looking for decent work only to be forced to accept less money than I’m worth (because of prior work history in the same industry, not because I think I’m special or whatever).

    That experience really affected my self worth for a while. It feels degrading to be treated like you’re a less-than-acceptable candidate because of something that isn’t your fault and you cannot change.

    I accept you as my sibling in suffering, and I wish you the best. Hopefully your situation will change for the better. Changing careers is hard enough without extra discrimination on top!




  • Try this: handwrite your negative thoughts out. Then try to prove to yourself why the feeling isn’t true. Again, write that out. Now tear up the paper and get rid of it. Don’t keep a journal of it.

    You would be stunned how much this helps. I got this technique from a doctor who wrote a book about living with what he calls neuropathic disorder (in my case chronic pain). In the book he describes how we can easily make ourhealth worse through negative thoughts. It’s very possible for bad feelings to cause physical pain because the two share the same neural pathways, so it’s critically important not to let your emotions get the better of you.

    The book is called Back In Control (the author is a back surgeon). It’s a good read for anyone with chronic illnesses, or even just for those who want to explore how to better control their emotions and live healthier.





  • A situation that I could see evolving over time is Lemmy/Kbin instances that are focused on a single or small number of subjects instead of being reddit-like and having a space for everything under the sun.

    I can imagine that administration of such an instance would be easier in some ways because of the more narrow focus of the site. For example a 3D printing focused instance could have it’s own sections for news, memes, reviews, etc. In such an instance a politics section could be focused on only politics dealing with 3D printing. All other political submissions get purged. Nice and tidy, and with clear rules that are easy to follow and understand site wide. Nobody cries about “censorship” because you don’t have warring camps antagonizing each other in the first place.

    Instances like that could also choose to only federate with related instances with similar focuses knowing that many of the problems that come along with massive discussion forums are at least abated.










  • In practice this would be difficult to implement because each instance has its own take on how to shape the code for their site. There’s no obligation to create an instance so that it will be compatible with everyone else’s instance, and in fact I would guess that would be effectively impossible.

    Let’s say Instance A allows porn, and a user on A wants to create an account on Instance B, but Instance B doesn’t want any porn on their server. At minimum, a way to keep any porn on that user’s account from syncing to B’s server would have to be implemented.

    This is only a single case. There will be plenty more small issues like that to have to work around, so it will take a lot of time to get all that logic designed, implemented and tested.

    The cloning of an account might also involve a not-insignificant amount of data being transferred. What if the receiving server wants to limit the amount of data storage for a new account so that they’re not burdened with storing tons of data for new, unknown users? How do you then determine what subset of that user’s data to import?

    Maybe these things will happen with enough time, but for now I think it’s best for now at least if everyone thinks of each instance as its own separate website that can communicate with other similar sites rather than a set of cloned sites where which one you pick doesn’t matter.

    Please don’t take this as argumentative, as we need people to share ideas like yours! I just keep seeing messages that give me the impression that people have expectations for the Threadiverse that aren’t currently realistic given what the state of the software is now.