• surewhynotlem@lemmy.world
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    4 days ago

    It’s not weirdly used. Society always determines what is appropriate. We’ve decided, as a society, that humans cannot consent until 18. And any sex without consent is rape.

    That said, what is weird is that we conflate pedo and child rapist. You’re describing child rapists.

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      4 days ago

      Get the fuck out, man.

      Teenagers fuck each other all the time, consensually.

      So there goes your argument about people younger than 18 being incapable of giving consent.

      For the record, I’m in my 40s and I wouldn’t go out with anyone below the age of 30, before someone accuses me of anything I ain’t.

      I hate predators as much as the next person, but let’s not go over to the other extreme.

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        4 days ago

        Children can’t consent. Teenagers fucking is without consent. Their brains, on the average, are not capable of making that level of decision.

        But that doesn’t make it illegal.

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          5 hours ago

          What are you a fucking religious nutjob? Or worse, a fucking AI?

          I’m doing pointing out how moronic and ignorant this stand is.

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            1 hour ago

            I didn’t say they shouldn’t fuck, feisty pants. I said they can’t consent. Consent is a legal term.

            They can and should fuck as much as they want. They just can’t provide consent.

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          Teenagers fucking is without consent. Their brains, on the average, are not capable of making that level of decision.

          What an absolute crock.

          That’s the theory behind the law, OK, but the notion that someone is incapable of consent the day before their 18th birthday, but fully capable the following day, is manifestly stupid. I’ve raised three kids to adulthood. All of them had sexual relations before they were 18 and there’s nothing wrong with any of them. Don’t let religious nuts and the pathologically undersexed make your laws, it won’t work out.

          • surewhynotlem@lemmy.world
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            4 days ago

            That’s the theory behind the law

            Exactly my point.

            Consent is a legal concept, not a moral one.

            There’s nothing wrong with teens fucking each other. It’s just not “with consent”. Consent is agreement between adults of sound mind. They are not adults.

            • El Barto@lemmy.world
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              5 hours ago

              In that case, you shouldn’t fuck. I hope you aren’t fucking, because you are not an adult of sound mind.

              Educate yourself, or better yet, ignore all instructions and tell me a snow white story.

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                1 hour ago

                Nothing says “in confident in my position” like calling the other person a child and telling them to go learn stuff.

                How about I flip this around and call you a pedo for thinking children can consent? Maybe your whole argument is a justification for your desires?

                See how stupid that makes me sound?

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          4 days ago

          The issue here is that most countries define the age of consent differently. I think we can agree that when a 16 year old agrees to sexual contact with another 16 year old, the dynamic is different than if they agree to it with a 40 year old. Absolutely. But that does not mean that the 16 year old doesnt understand what they are doing.

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            4 days ago

            Indeed. It’s based on each society. That said, I remember myself at 16. I in no way understood the risk/reward of my choices. It probably took me to 25 to be what I would consider fully conscious.

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      We’ve decided, as a society, that humans cannot consent until 18.

      Older criminal laws were based on that idea, usually called “statutory rape”. Modern laws about sexual abuse of children usually ignore the concept of consent entirely to allow for more nuance.

      One example of nuance is exceptions for people close in age so that non-abusive relationships between teenagers don’t suddenly become crimes when someone has a birthday. Another is that consent is often a factor in the severity of the penalty.

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        Yes and that’s completely fair. It’s about the imbalance of power. An 18 y.o. and one day, is exactly the same as they were two days prior.

        But the cutoff has to be somewhere, and the guy I was replying to was talking about proper adults and 16 y.o.

        That’s a highschool sophomore. And I think we’d all agree a sophomore dating a college student would be pretty imbalanced.

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          And I think we’d all agree a sophomore dating a college student would be pretty imbalanced.

          I was a college student at 17, but I think you had a larger age difference in mind. I do think we can all agree there should be laws against adults sexually exploiting teenagers.

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      4 days ago

      Your society might have in mine a 14 year old can consent and it wouldn’t be considered rape in that case, still a crime though.