TehBamski@lemmy.world to Asklemmy@lemmy.mlEnglish · 1 个月前What's the best psychology trick you know?message-squaremessage-square91fedilinkarrow-up1128arrow-down13
arrow-up1125arrow-down1message-squareWhat's the best psychology trick you know?TehBamski@lemmy.world to Asklemmy@lemmy.mlEnglish · 1 个月前message-square91fedilink
minus-squareXavienth@lemmygrad.mllinkfedilinkarrow-up6·1 个月前In an argument, never use “you”. No accusations. Keep a calm, relaxed tone of voice. Even if they don’t concede, they will eventually apologize and reconsider their position, but it may take a while after the conversation ended. “I told you you shouldn’t have bought that.” “I didn’t think that purchase was necessary.” “You upset me.” “I was made to feel upset.”
minus-squareJustinTheGM@ttrpg.networklinkfedilinkEnglisharrow-up8·1 个月前You don’t even have to passive voice it - a simple “I felt upset” is fully valid without assigning blame.
minus-squarecomfy@lemmy.mllinkfedilinkarrow-up4arrow-down1·1 个月前Also, at least where I live, it’s much more casual and less sterile and stilted than the verbose “I was made to feel upset”.
In an argument, never use “you”. No accusations. Keep a calm, relaxed tone of voice. Even if they don’t concede, they will eventually apologize and reconsider their position, but it may take a while after the conversation ended.
“I told you you shouldn’t have bought that.”“I didn’t think that purchase was necessary.”
“You upset me.”“I was made to feel upset.”
You don’t even have to passive voice it - a simple “I felt upset” is fully valid without assigning blame.
Also, at least where I live, it’s much more casual and less sterile and stilted than the verbose “I was made to feel upset”.