My kid , 4 year old. She repeats some patterns in my life.

I was good with maths, science, books but was dumb/stupid for day-to-day interactions with other persons and lacked common sense . I am not an introvert and want to company with huge number of people around me. But I miss the sense in people talk, my replies will be foolish. And, do things ( like : gym ) in artificial/goofy ways - my default facial expression was embarrassment.

This pulled me back and I lived with books, cinema etc. And my friends are either similar persons or persons who can tolerate(?) me. I do joke to them that I only have few friends . The number is 4+3 and the answer is 6 ( last one being myself )

Now, my kid behaves similarly . She is good at studies, but lacks sense and do things in stupid ways. She wants to be friend with kids. From what I understood, she has one friend only and others are not ok with her.

My innermost feeling is that even if she is having stupidity/lack of sense, she should be friends with same age kids.

My Qns are:

  1. She is concerned with the not-loved-by-others situation. She sometimes cry that kids said H ( hate ) to her. How to help her. Can I simply say your dad faced similar situations ( I do remember feeling what’s the issue with me at many places, why they do not like me, and crying )

  2. How can I tell the world is not fare. And if she did not get friends here, she could find soulmates somewhere else.

  3. I think she is not a listener-type and keep talking what’s in her mind at that moment. How to make her understand on listening to others.

  4. Finally, which doctor assistance required , like child psychologist …

Thank you for reading all this, fellow parents. Any advises/Qns , let me know.

  • theinfamousj@parenti.sh
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    10 months ago

    If you feel comfortable with a book in English, check out the book “Why Will No One Play With Me”. It sounds as if there may be some neurodivergence going on and from only what you have mentioned here, this limited information fits almost exactly the pattern for ADHD. But there’s obviously more information you aren’t disclosing.

    ADHD is highly heritable which makes sense that like parent like child.

    Child psychiatrist is who you take her to for a diagnosis. Once you know where to look for strategies, which is what that diagnosis tells you, then you can start supporting her in all the best ways she’d benefit from.

    Thanks for being a concerned parent.