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    11 months ago

    Is it good for kids? Equally important: Is it good for parents?

    In my opinion, the well-being of one’s children, who one brought into this world without their consent, will always come first. I’m not saying parents’ needs aren’t important, but they’re not equally important.

    They are often not so gentle with themselves. They were frequently exhausted, uncertain, hard on themselves and lonely.

    Probably in part affected by a lack of social and systemic support. No one should feel like they’re raising a child on their own, but at the same time considering the potential for abuse when entrusting one’s child to any third party, I understand why parents might feel that they’re alone.

    We wonder: Will the kids of gentle parents show the same sort of emotional restraint as their parents? Or will these children only build in the emotional control they wield over their parents?

    But hasn’t there been ample research to show that a compassionate approach is beneficial? I’m not sure this speculation is well founded. It sounds like the same sorts of things people said when we first recognized the harmful effects of corporal punishment on children.

    Go easy on yourselves. Also, go ahead and take that nap.

    With this I can agree!

    Disclaimer: I am not a parent, just the weird uncle.